Tell All Tuesday Series: Parental Advice

Q-What advice did your parents give you that you wish you had followed?

My Wedding Day
A-It was October of 1999, and I was moments away from walking down the aisle on my daddy’s arm, when he looked me in the eye and told me, “It’s not too late to change your mind.” Of course this struck a nerve and the tears began flowing. So there I am, walking down the aisle on my wedding day, bawling my eyes out, not from tears of joy, but from hurt feelings. The only thing that I have ever wanted out of life was for my daddy’s approval; for him to be proud of me, and to be supportive of my decisions.

That statement haunted me for years, and finally, years after my divorce, my daddy shared the whole story of my wedding day.

Apparently, while I was getting dolled up with the girls, my husband-to-be was playing his guitar in one of the spare rooms. My dad went in there and told him that it was time to put it up and make his way to the chapel, and he basically blew my dad off and informed him that I could wait, which of course pissed my dad off. Deep in my heart, I knew that our marriage wasn’t going to work out. I got a half of a proposal before he passed out in my lap! But, trying to do right for my son, I tried to make it work. But, there’s only so much that you can do on your own! I wish I had followed my daddy’s advice on that one.

What advice did your parents give YOU that you wish you had followed?

Christmas Wishes…

My Christmas Wish

If I could have any Christmas wish this season, it would be dental work for my sweet husband. For the past 3 years (since our Honeymoon) the enamel in his teeth has been disintegrating. Whenever he eats or brushes, flakes and chunks of teeth come free from the gum line. Little by little it has affected his self-esteem, his self-worth, and his overall quality of life; not to mention the agonizing pain that has accompanied it. It is now making its way to his two front teeth, and he has become a recluse because of this occurrence. I just cannot imagine how bad things will get once his teeth are noticeable to everyone he encounters. He is SO embarrassed!

During his working career, he was a top dog executive for DuPont, and was in a position of power, so his appearance was of the utmost importance. He catered to his health, his teeth, his apparel, and he was one of the few men you would see getting manicures at the salon. First impressions make or break business deals, so he made sure to stay sharp all the way around.

Life was grand, and he was the king of his domain until he was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. He was informed that he was in Stage 4, and the doctors speculated that he would meet his demise in October of 2006. Since then, he has been on a downward spiral. He has long since surpassed that date, and even found that his cancer had gone into remission during an appointment in 2009, but unfortunately, the cancer has done some irreversible damage to his enamel, for which he is now paying.

Over the weekend, we were sitting in bed watching a movie, when he looked over at me and showed me a chunk of tooth that had just broken off. Every time I am confronted with this situation, it makes me feel queasy and sick to my stomach. It’s in my nature to make everything okay for everyone around me, and in this situation I can only sit there, helpless. I hate it! Since then, he has been in excruciating pain, and has been packing that gaping hole with the exposed nerve full of BC powder in order to get only slight relief. The aspirin is eating holes in his mouth, and the remaining pieces of teeth are jagged and sharp, and are slicing and dicing his tongue every time it comes near them.

I have contacted dentists all over Middle Tennessee, and have inquired if they would be willing to set us up on a payment plan, and I have been shown to the door each time. I have talked with the dental school in town and was informed that if we were lucky enough to get in (after waiting in ridiculous lines all day long) they would only do one tooth (or two if they had time) at a time. I have asked for help from numerous churches and other organizations in hopes that they can help us in any way that they can, and have been turned away. I even took my husband to a dental surgeon to see what options we had available to us, (meanwhile maxing out my Care Credit card) and he suggested that we take out a loan to have the work done. That would be fine and dandy, but between us, we have 4 children (ages 25, 16, 14, and 11), 1 granddaughter, and 1 grandson due any day now to care for.

When we married, our combined income proved “too substantial,” and I lost my government benefits. It has been all I can do just to put food on the table each night and to keep a roof over our head. Over the past 3 years, my husband has lost 60 pounds and I have lost 40, just so our children don’t go hungry. Birthdays and Christmas’ have been extremely disappointing for our little ones, and although I hold a college degree, I have been working the same job for the past decade. I work as much overtime as I’m allowed, but it is never enough to cover the bills. Every time I turn around, I’m headed to yet another loan office with my tail tucked between my legs. Some days I just don’t know what else to do. I’m overworked, underpaid, utterly exhausted, and I just never seem to have enough to cut it. I feel like a complete loser! But, despite it all, I try to keep a smile on my face, and I try to recognize all of the blessings in my life. I just wish I could provide and care for my family better than I have been able to. They deserve the world!

Versatile Blogger Award

Versatile Blogging Award-1
Tricia over at From Sometimes I Cook has nominated me for the “Versatile Blogger Award.”  She has an amazing blog full of yummy recipes, fun projects (Make sure to check out her Majora’s Mask DIY post-she did a fabulous job!!!  I LOVE Zelda…), posts on life (home, fashion, seasons), and her travels.  You will truly enjoy your time there!  Thank you Tricia for the nomination, I truly appreciate it!

Rules for the Versatile Blogger Award
-This award is meant to celebrate the bloggers who bring the most joy into your life.-

  • Thank the person that has nominated you
  • Include a link to their blog
  • Nominate 15 blogs of your choice
  • Link your nominees and let them know of your nomination
  • Share seven different facts about yourself

Versatile Blogger Award

Who is Krista Kemp?
So, are you guys sick to death of hearing about me yet?! If so, I’m sorry, and if not, here are 7 more facts to get you going…

Fact 1: My daddy was a bit of a gypsy when I was growing up, so I had the opportunity to travel all across the United States as a kid. I have been to the majority of the 50 states, and have loved every moment of it! Each state holds its own mystique, and I am so thankful that I was fortunate enough to explore them. I look forward to the day when I can begin my travels again.

Fact 2: I never went to the Prom. Like most little girls, I dreamed of attending my prom. The magic, the music, the fun, but I was cheated out of that experience. I had the guy (my ex-husband), but I guess he just didn’t deem me worthy enough to take. It’s just another one of the many disappointments that have occurred in my life.

Fact 3: I was introduced to Greek Mythology in the 8th grade, and have found it fascinating ever since. The stories contain so much magic! I always thought it would be neat to name my daughter “Persephone” (The Flower Child), but was ridiculed by family members when I suggested it. I also find the renaissance era intriguing. I suppose that is why I enjoy movies from that time period. I would never want to live during those times (poor things had to piss in a pot and toss it out the window), but the ambiance that surrounds that time is dark and romantic.

Fact 4: I was born in Orlando, Florida (The Sunshine State) and lived there until I was 6 years old. We then moved to Tennessee which is where I grew up. At the age of 19, I was packing up my house and moving overseas to Germany with my son, Kody, on my hip. I returned home to Tennessee at the age of 23, only to discover that it was not the same as I had left it. I have been stuck here since, and am longing for the day when I will be able to move to Orange Beach, Alabama. This white sandy beach calls my name and welcomes me home. Soon…

Fact 5: I have always had an eclectic flair, and Mr. Tim Burton helped me to realize that. I enjoy abstract pieces of art, I wish to adorn my home with bohemian decor, and my hippie spirit demands simplicity and freedom. Throw it all together, and you’ve got me. There is no general “theme” in my home, and there is no rhyme or reason. I have what I like, and I throw it wherever it is going to make me the happiest; simple as that.

Fact 6: I LOVE going to Amusement Parks! I love the thrill of the roller coasters, the food is divine (All Junk!!!), and the excitement that’s in the air! When I was little we had season passes to Disney World, and while living in Tennessee, I had a season pass to Opryland (before they shut it down to build a freaking mall). I have visited several other parks, and have loved every one of them. They are exhilarating, and they bring out the best in everyone.

Fact 7: Ever since I was a little girl, I have been intrigued by psychology. To know the mind, how it works, and to realize how each of us tick is beyond fascinating! The brain is such a complex organ, one which mystifies. To understand why people do what they do, say what they say, or to think the things that they do, is phenomenal. Due to this fascination, I took every psychology course that was offered throughout my schooling. After all, knowledge is power!

My Nominees:

  1. Michael over at Michael’s Origins
  2. Chantelle over at All About Chatelle
  3. Izza over at A Touch of my Saint!
  4. Danny over at Dream Big, Dream Often
  5. Cathy over at Cathy Lynn Brooks
  6. Kenneth over at Baja Moto Quest!
  7. Ramona over at Ramona Crisstea
  8. Sarah over at Sarah Learns Life
  9. Christian over at Maxed Out Muscles
  10. Mardeline over at Confessions of a Pastor’s Daughter
  11. Ros over at Free From Him
  12. Moxie over at Moxie Luster
  13. Melissa over at In Between Moderation
  14. Annie over at Gentle Kindness
  15. Talya over at Motherhood: The Real Deal

Thank you again, Tricia.  I am honored!