Millions of relationships suffer and inevitably die from infidelities, but that can ALL be avoided if you take the time to prevent it. Mind you, some people are just promiscuous by nature, and nothing you can ever do will change that, but the majority stay true if their wants, needs, and desires are taken care of. So, let’s discuss the 5 steps we need to take to keep our beloved men happy and at home.
Step 1: Couples that Play Together, Stay Together
First and foremost, in order to have and maintain a successful and healthy relationship, you have to be friends first. It is quite possible to be “In Love” with someone, but just not “Like” them! The person that you choose to devote your life to should be categorized as your best friend. Yes, there will be moments where everything they do and say just pisses you off, but in time, you get over it, just as you would with your best “girl” friend. If you don’t thoroughly enjoy spending time with your honey, then perhaps you should re-evaluate your relationship with them. There’s no sense wasting your years on someone you really don’t have a connection with. If you are truly in love with your best friend, then “playing together” is super easy and the best fun you’ll ever have. Playing a video game together, watching a movie, or going to a nice dinner will be some of the best memories that you’ll ever create. It won’t matter what you do, so long as you’re doing it together.
Step 2: The Way to a Man’s Heart is Through His Stomach
Unless you are just a complete walking disaster in the kitchen, this step should be super easy to master. If a man’s basic necessities are tended to, he has some good snacks to munch on, and the occasional goodie, then there is no reason for him to stray. Keep him fat, happy, and spoiled!
Step 3: Make Him a TOP Priority in your Life
As a parent, it is difficult (at times) to ensure that your husband remains a priority in your life. Children require a TON of your time and energy, but you need to make it a point to keep your man at the top of the list. If your husband feels overshadowed by his offspring (or step children in some cases), then his interests may veer off in a devastating direction for the family. Treat him like the King of his castle and he’ll stick around to rule over his empire. Deny him his place in the family, and you’ll find yourself running the show solo. It’s not easy and it’s not fun, let me tell you! If he expresses his love, stop everything that you’re doing and openly receive his affection. Make sure to involve him in daily household tasks. This gives him the impression that he is wanted, needed, and an important part of the circle that you call family. Challenge him (spiritually, mentally, intellectually) and keep him at the top of his game. If you wear the pants ALL the time, he’ll feel like his contributions don’t matter, and he’ll find someone new that will make him feel superior. It all goes back to that basic (caveman) instinct.
Step 4: Schedule Weekly Date Nights
This is NOT optional and cancellation is a NO GO (unless someone is gushing blood or dying!). If you want to keep that spark fresh, then you have to fuel that flame on a DAILY basis. You should schedule a “Date Night” a minimum of once per week. Go out for dinner, rent a hotel room, go out on the town together. If funds are low, opt for frugal expenditures instead like watching the sun set over the lake, taking a stroll on the beach holding hands, or going on a hike in the mountains. It doesn’t matter what you choose to do, so long as you are putting forth the effort to spend that one on one time together. Not only will you be building a stronger foundation for your relationship, but you’ll be creating phenomenal memories that will last through the ages.
Step 5: Having a Healthy Sex Life is Vital to a Relationship!
Whether you want to admit it or not, everything in life revolves around sex. Why do people want big houses and flashy cars? Sex. Elaborate vacations and expenditure accounts? Sex. Lucrative careers and fancy dinners? Sex. Everything in this world centers around sex. If you have been fortunate enough to find that one special someone in this HUGE world, make sure that you tend to their carnal desires and leave them needing more. Mundane sex will have him running for the hills, so make sure that you keep it fresh and interesting. Plus, you owe it to yourself to keep it entertaining, as it benefits you as well. Experiment, Role Play, Ooze your Sex Appeal! Rid yourself of your insecurities; it only kills the vibe. The sexier you feel about yourself, the more desirable you will be to them. Use what the good Lord gave you and flaunt it! Be his dirty girl!
Well, there you have it. 5 easy steps that you can take to ensure that your man stays loyal until the end. I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic, and am curious if you have any additional suggestions. Can’t wait to hear from you in the comments below…