I ran across a very profound statement a while back, and felt compelled to share. I hope that you like it…
“Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”
Think about that…WHAT IS NORMAL FOR THE SPIDER IS CHAOS FOR THE FLY. What a great way to look at it!
For starters, let’s determine what “normal” actually is. Are you jumping on the band wagon and classifying “normal” as what is considered acceptable in society or do you have another outlook toward it? Is “normal” a massive home with a white picket fence, a manicured yard, and a minivan sitting in the driveway? Is “normal” a home with a subservient Barbie doll trophy wife who beckons to her husbands every quim? Is “normal” walk in closets, shoe obsessions, salon appointments, and tennis matches once the children head off to school? Do you feel as though you OR your family would be classified as “normal?” Mine sure wouldn’t, from present day all the way back through the blood line!
I realized years ago that to be “normal” or to be “in control” of a situation was really just a figment of our own imaginations. There is NO such thing, and they are indeed illusions, as we all have different backgrounds, beliefs, goals, dreams, priorities, and perspectives in our lives. God made each of us unique, not robotic clones, so don’t beat yourself up for not “measuring up” compared to your neighbors, Facebook friends, or your peers. It’s not a competition! The only thing that you’ll gain from this is a freaking ulcer, and WHO has time for that?!
Just because your car or home isn’t as fabulous as Samantha’s down the road, or you can’t afford a month long European vacation like Robert, that does NOT mean that you are inadequate! It simply means that your “normal” is on the other end of the spectrum than theirs is. Be gracious, humble, and happy for others. Believe it or not, there are aspects of your life that they wish they had in theirs. My first marriage looked appealing to the outside world, but no one ever saw what went on behind closed doors. Severe alcohol addiction, neglect, mental and physical abuse, screaming matches, pornography addiction, and the list goes on and on…
EVERYONE, regardless of how perfect their life may seem, live with their own set of demons. The grass is NEVER greener on the other side, and when you shake up your way of life, you are ALWAYS trading one set of problems for another! There are SO many people who feel trapped by this or that, those that loathe their spouses, while others fear theirs. There are a multitude of addictions and mental illnesses that seriously impair the strength of a family’s foundation, and this is only the tip of the iceberg. To live a “normal” life is most assuredly an illusion, and the only certainty is death and taxes.
What are YOUR thoughts on this topic?