Q-What advice did your parents give you that you wish you had followed?
A-It was October of 1999, and I was moments away from walking down the aisle on my daddy’s arm, when he looked me in the eye and told me, “It’s not too late to change your mind.” Of course this struck a nerve and the tears began flowing. So there I am, walking down the aisle on my wedding day, bawling my eyes out, not from tears of joy, but from hurt feelings. The only thing that I have ever wanted out of life was for my daddy’s approval; for him to be proud of me, and to be supportive of my decisions.
That statement haunted me for years, and finally, years after my divorce, my daddy shared the whole story of my wedding day.
Apparently, while I was getting dolled up with the girls, my husband-to-be was playing his guitar in one of the spare rooms. My dad went in there and told him that it was time to put it up and make his way to the chapel, and he basically blew my dad off and informed him that I could wait, which of course pissed my dad off. Deep in my heart, I knew that our marriage wasn’t going to work out. I got a half of a proposal before he passed out in my lap! But, trying to do right for my son, I tried to make it work. But, there’s only so much that you can do on your own! I wish I had followed my daddy’s advice on that one.
What advice did your parents give YOU that you wish you had followed?