Christmas Wishes…

My Christmas Wish

If I could have any Christmas wish this season, it would be dental work for my sweet husband. For the past 3 years (since our Honeymoon) the enamel in his teeth has been disintegrating. Whenever he eats or brushes, flakes and chunks of teeth come free from the gum line. Little by little it has affected his self-esteem, his self-worth, and his overall quality of life; not to mention the agonizing pain that has accompanied it. It is now making its way to his two front teeth, and he has become a recluse because of this occurrence. I just cannot imagine how bad things will get once his teeth are noticeable to everyone he encounters. He is SO embarrassed!

During his working career, he was a top dog executive for DuPont, and was in a position of power, so his appearance was of the utmost importance. He catered to his health, his teeth, his apparel, and he was one of the few men you would see getting manicures at the salon. First impressions make or break business deals, so he made sure to stay sharp all the way around.

Life was grand, and he was the king of his domain until he was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. He was informed that he was in Stage 4, and the doctors speculated that he would meet his demise in October of 2006. Since then, he has been on a downward spiral. He has long since surpassed that date, and even found that his cancer had gone into remission during an appointment in 2009, but unfortunately, the cancer has done some irreversible damage to his enamel, for which he is now paying.

Over the weekend, we were sitting in bed watching a movie, when he looked over at me and showed me a chunk of tooth that had just broken off. Every time I am confronted with this situation, it makes me feel queasy and sick to my stomach. It’s in my nature to make everything okay for everyone around me, and in this situation I can only sit there, helpless. I hate it! Since then, he has been in excruciating pain, and has been packing that gaping hole with the exposed nerve full of BC powder in order to get only slight relief. The aspirin is eating holes in his mouth, and the remaining pieces of teeth are jagged and sharp, and are slicing and dicing his tongue every time it comes near them.

I have contacted dentists all over Middle Tennessee, and have inquired if they would be willing to set us up on a payment plan, and I have been shown to the door each time. I have talked with the dental school in town and was informed that if we were lucky enough to get in (after waiting in ridiculous lines all day long) they would only do one tooth (or two if they had time) at a time. I have asked for help from numerous churches and other organizations in hopes that they can help us in any way that they can, and have been turned away. I even took my husband to a dental surgeon to see what options we had available to us, (meanwhile maxing out my Care Credit card) and he suggested that we take out a loan to have the work done. That would be fine and dandy, but between us, we have 4 children (ages 25, 16, 14, and 11), 1 granddaughter, and 1 grandson due any day now to care for.

When we married, our combined income proved “too substantial,” and I lost my government benefits. It has been all I can do just to put food on the table each night and to keep a roof over our head. Over the past 3 years, my husband has lost 60 pounds and I have lost 40, just so our children don’t go hungry. Birthdays and Christmas’ have been extremely disappointing for our little ones, and although I hold a college degree, I have been working the same job for the past decade. I work as much overtime as I’m allowed, but it is never enough to cover the bills. Every time I turn around, I’m headed to yet another loan office with my tail tucked between my legs. Some days I just don’t know what else to do. I’m overworked, underpaid, utterly exhausted, and I just never seem to have enough to cut it. I feel like a complete loser! But, despite it all, I try to keep a smile on my face, and I try to recognize all of the blessings in my life. I just wish I could provide and care for my family better than I have been able to. They deserve the world!

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26 thoughts on “Christmas Wishes…

  1. stephiesbeadsandbaubles.com says:

    I am so sorry to hear you and your husband are going through so much ! I drives me crazy how many good people fall through the cracks and cannot get the help they need. I am so shocked that not one dentist has the empathy to help him out and allow payments, that is horrible. It absolutely disgusts me.
    I will be absolutely keeping you in my prayers . Have you thought about doing a crowd funding thing to help with the dental bills ? When our son in law was almost killed by a car while jogging last year, they were able to raise at least a few thousand to help out with bills as our daughter had no income for months before disability kicked in. It was horrible. They used Go Fund Me, I believe.
    I am not sure if you are willing to do that, but it is worth a try and just maybe you can get enough to get him some help ? I would just post exactly what you posted here and ask everyone to share it. It is just a thought as I am trying to figure out something, I am just so sad for your poor husband with his teeth. That is awful. No one should be going hungry to feed their kids either, I am just so sorry you are having to go through all of this !!
    xoxo

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    • Krista Kemp says:

      I just recently found out about Go Fund Me, and haven’t had the opportunity just yet to research it. I thank you for all of your kind words! They mean the world to me! I wear many different hats in my life..

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  2. Howto$tuffYourPig says:

    I am sorry to hear of your struggles. Being a pf blogger, I am going to step outside the box and give seemingly irresponsible advice. People come first, try and get another credit card to cover the work and if you can’t pay it back then oh well. Credit scores can always be repaired. Also, I have seen quite a few stories on people leaving the country to get cheaper dental. The quality of you and your husband’s life matters, so it may be worth looking into. Check out http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2014/06/09/318212444/a-reason-to-smile-mexican-town-is-a-destination-for-dental-tourism you can also check out national non profit agencies. I will do some research and see if I can find anything. Keep your spirits up! Where there is a will there is a way!

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  3. Sara says:

    I’m so sorry you and your family are having to deal with that. I don’t have any suggestions that haven’t already been said, but know that my thoughts are with you both! I hope one or more of the suggestions above works out. I think the GoFundMe sounds like a great idea, as does a university hospital. I had to go to one for years when I was younger for oral surgeries and specialized dentistry.

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  4. Sarah's Attic of Treasures says:

    Oh Krista, I understand .
    My gums aren’t as bad as his are. They just look BAD but don’t hurt MUCH yet. My health insurance won’t pay for dental work. I don’t have dental coverage. It’s a medical issue as far as I am concerned. I get sick from the inflammation. The taste in my mouth is awful.
    I also understand NOT being able to PAY BILLS and going without.
    I would give anything to be able to teach again.
    To help make ENDS MEET.

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    • Krista Kemp says:

      Yeah, I consider his medical as well, and fear that they will begin to poison his system. If I can ever get my organization running, this is one huge incentive that I intend to offer folks. Hoping to find a way…no one should live in pain! You can be my first patient-all expenses paid. Hang in there, there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

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  5. Baijen says:

    Dear Kristen,

    I’m just reading this now at 05:40 am my time. I know that you will come through this challenging time in your life. You’re resourceful and steadfast. Now that this information is out there, I pray resolution will come from your friends I’m the universe. You give to the world, so shall it be returned to you.

    You are not alone and I will be thinking of you this Christmas and praying that you and your family are as comfortable as possible.

    Best wishes

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