Welcome to my “Tell All Tuesday’s” series

Tell All Tuesday Series...

Welcome to my Tell all Tuesday series.  I thought it would be fun to learn as much as I can about each of my readers in hopes of creating a blog that you will run to each week.  My question for each of you this week is this:

Q-Are you where you thought you would be at this point in your life?

Let me be the first to answer…

A-Hell no!  When I was younger I had my ideal life planned down to the T.  I knew what I wanted, expected, and deserved out of life, and I had a solid head on my shoulders.  I signed up for college my junior year in high school, and had decided that I would go to the local community college to get my pre-req’s out of the way while saving some cash.  From there I would transfer to one of the local university’s and apply for a minority scholarship to receive my Bachelor’s degree.  If I decided to pursue my doctorate (which was in the plan) I would continue my schooling elsewhere.  I had planned on having 4 children (as I loved kids), and that I would own my first home by the age of 25.  I had even planned out how to start my retirement fund at the age of 18.  Apparently, that cushy life wasn’t in the cards for me.  Here is a little breakdown of how it really happened.

I found out that I was pregnant when I was 18.  I graduated high school, gave birth to my son, and then decided to marry his father (as he was a college graduate and had a promising future).  My husband was offered a fantastic job with Mitsubishi, which he quickly lost because he would stay up all night (out of town work) drinking and looking at pornography, thus not waking up for work in the morning.  We had just gotten a brand new car, we had a new baby, and there was no job.  So, needless to say, I gave him the 2 week ultimatum.  Find a job, or you join the military.  Well, a month later he was packing up and shipping out to basic training.  After 6 months, I was packing up the house and moving overseas with baby boy on my hip.  My auto-biography will include all of the juicy details, trust me!

My time in Germany

So, trying to make the best of the situation, I decided that I would finally get to travel Germany, a place that I had always wanted to go, and I would have my opportunity to pursue my college education.  Two weeks after moving overseas I found myself pregnant with baby number 2.  Then my loving hubby told me that he was going to continue his education, and I would “just have to wait.”  He actually thought he could trap me-HA!

After leaving Europe, baby number 3, divorcing my abusive/alcoholic hubby, and moving back home to good ole’ Tennessee, I finally found a lady who told me how to go about getting a student grant.  I worked a full-time split shift at a school age daycare center, went to classes between my shifts, and worked on my homework after putting the kids down each night.  My major changed a few times, and it took a little longer to receive my degree than I would have liked, but I graduated, and even managed to make the Dean’s list.

I am nowhere close to where I wanted to be at the ripe old age of 34, but I feel that my experiences have taken me where I was meant to go.  I have finally figured out my calling in life, and I know that if things had happened differently, I wouldn’t be talking to you now, nor would I be the person that I am today.  I LOVE me, and I’m happy with my life.  Yes, there are a lot of things that would make my life better and easier, but overall, I am content.  I thank the Lord for my blessings, the people that I confide in each day, and the love that I am surrounded with.  Life is good!

Now it’s your turn.  I cannot wait to hear your response.


7 thoughts on “Welcome to my “Tell All Tuesday’s” series

  1. leeann says:

    Well I knew I would be where I am today !!! I am 29 with a beautiful 2 year year old daughter and a wonderful man that I have fought to learn love and cherish he helped inspire me to change my life . When I was younger I took the “low road and started partying at least that is how it started . I got mixed up with all the wrong people (my choosing ) let’s just say that type of life style I lived I grew up fast I wanted to be a cosmetologist so I quit school and finally talked my mom into letting me go to g.e.d classes when I was 17 also I was still in the 9th grade never could seem to pass that grade .. well I never went to a single class but I did attend beauty school for 2 months never g.e.d. so I quit going not because I didn’t want to but because drugs and partying wouldn’t let me .. so I lived couch to couch and one day I had had enough couldn’t keep a job and had no one so someone helped me get involved in a.a. So I have been sober 5 years on May 31 my life is wonderful I found god through my storm and fought like he’ll to be where I am today !!! I have almost 1 subject left to pass to finally have my g.e.d .. God is on my side and he sent his only son to die on the cross for my sins . The Lord has delivered me from where I was and today I love myself money can’t buy that !!!!


  2. Casey says:

    I am very happy with where I am in my life today, but no it is not where I thought I would be. My life took a completely different direction than I thought it would. If my plans had panned out I would be an Army helicopter pilot today and be a few years away from retiring from the Army with 20 years in. Instead I was in the Army for five years which allowed me to live in Europe and Asia, and own a house at the ripe old age of 20. I loved the Army, but thanks to war and babies my life took a different direction. I decided to get out of the Army when I became pregnant with my daughter who is now ten years old. Little did I know at the time that becoming a Mom would change everything about what I wanted and valued in life. My son came along four years later and just reinforced what I already knew, I was born to be a mother. I love motherhood, I love my children and all in entails. It is sooooo hard though! It is scary and bittersweet, but wonderful at the same time.
    I have a wonderful job that I love in a state that is beautiful, so I feel very lucky. I never thought I would find myself divorced, but then no one does when they get married. I would not change the marriage or the divorce, everything happens for a reason. It took me ten years, but I finally have an Associate’s Degree and now I want a Bachelor, but right now my children are center stage. I fee guilt about being so far away from my Tennessee family, but I have to make a living as a single Mom and that great living is here in Washington. I miss everyone so much, but they don’t even really know me now. I am so different as an adult than I was as a child. I am still a dork…lol, but I am also fiercely independent and capable.


    • Krista Kemp says:

      I am SO proud of the strides that you have made in your life, and I have been blessed to have been by your side for the majority of the ride. You have been a wonderful friend to me over the years, and I love you to pieces!


  3. Heartafire says:

    How ironic, I married at eighteen, gave birth before turning nineteen, lived in Europe for a couple of years, came back to my home in Miami Florida, Got my degree, divorced, remarried. I had no real expectations but to take each day one at a time and that is what I am doing. Thank you for the most interesting article, enjoyed.


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